A little lesson on love
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aUL4K3pqEkE <— Listen.
I once thought that all relationships that ended were pointless - I mean they led no where right?
I then heard someone else’s view on the matter. He believed that even relationships that end are never pointless, they teach you lessons that you would have never learned without them - and he couldn’t be anymore right. This is what I have learned.
We have to hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain, because all of life’s lessons are taught through pain.
Loosing someone you love is disappointing and heartbreaking. Loosing that same person a second time is de-motivating and life-changing.
I’ve learned that your good times are really good - but your bad times are just as bad, you just have to to try and balance your luck and hope that the good times outweigh the bad.
And that’s all that love is - luck.
I used to think that making things work took more that just luck. That it took time, hard-work, effort, willingness and faithfulness, don’t get me wrong it takes all of those things and probably more.
But it simply mostly just takes luck.
Maybe you’ll be lucky that he likes you back.
Maybe you’ll be lucky that he doesn’t meet someone else.
Maybe you’ll be lucky that he doesn’t fall out of love with you.
Maybe you’ll be lucky that he doesn’t realize he never loved you in the first place.
Maybe you’ll be lucky that it lasts.
And if your not lucky - well that’s unfortunate.
But I’ve learned that it’s better to let go, than hold on. Because loving someone who doesn’t love you back is like hugging a cactus; the tighter you hold on, the more it hurts.
And boy does it hurt.
But never be afraid to let go, because you never know what will replace what you’ve lost, and it could be 10 x more amazing than anything you’ve ever had.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all, silence is the worlds biggest cry. Just because you want them, does not mean you should keep on fighting for them, because someday, someone is going to thank them for letting you go.
I’ve also learned that trying to explain how you feel will never work, people have to experience something themselves before they can even begin to understand how you feel.
'The sad thing about betrayal is that it never comes from an enemy, it comes from those you love the most.'
So yes my opinion on love and relationships has changed. I’ve changed. Pain does that to people. Pain is good. Sometimes you have to break-up to wake up.
For now i’m going to let relationships go, and maybe, just maybe, someone can convince me to take the risk again. It’s like learning to walk - it’s a process.
I’m thankful for my past relationships. They just make the next ones better.
Someday he’ll cry for her like you cried for him; someday he’ll miss her like you missed him; someday he’ll need her like you needed him; someday he’ll love her, but she won’t love him. But never wish it upon him. Pray that it won’t happen to him. Why?
Because getting over him doesn’t mean you become bitter and hateful. It means you want the best for him.
It was a privilege being hurt by you.
”Being alone may scare you, but being in a bad relationship will damage you.”
”So we’ll crawl
Till we can walk again
Then we’ll run
Until we’re strong enough to jump
Then we’ll fly
Until there is no winds
So let’s crawl, crawl, crawl”